Thursday, May 29, 2014

100 Simple Ways To Improve Your Life

Don't wait to change.
Don't wait to say I will do it tomorrow.
All we have is today to choose what we will do, what our character reflects, and how we will live our lives.

Change isn't easy, but it is certainly worth it. There have been several times I have done a personal inventory of my life and found I had some gaping holes that need to be filled. When I give advice to others about change in their lives, I usually tell them to start small so they won't fail in their resolutions, but I usually don't follow the same advice myself. The reason I don't is because I have found in my own life I need a big challenge in order to really change. When I gained a bunch of weight in my early-twenties I decided to get healthy. A few years later I was 60 pounds lighter and running marathons and triathlons. When I found I wasn't praying enough, I took up a daily rosary and reading of Scripture. I have kept that habit for almost 14 years and pray at least an hour a day now. So, what is next? Well, that is for me to discern...
But, I want to give suggestions for you as well.



100 Simple Ways To Improve Your Life:
  1. Pray more (or start praying if you aren't already)
  2. Say "I love you" to those you love
  3. We have too much stuff - go through your stuff and give some of it away. 
  4. Visit your relatives
  5. Tip bigger
  6. Volunteer at a nursing home / soup kitchen / homeless shelter / animal shelter / Habitat for Humanity
  7. Smile more
  8. Say "hi" (or if in Texas "howdy") to strangers
  9. Be thankful for what you have, not envious of what you don't have
  10. Write someone a hand-written letter
  11. Volunteer for a task at work that nobody else wants
  12. Tithe 10%
  13. Forgive someone you hold a grudge against
  14. Do something on your "bucket list"
  15. Learn a new skill
  16. Say something encouraging to a loved-one that you should have said long ago
  17. Drive with kindness
  18. Volunteer with a youth group
  19. Save your money for something important and distant
  20. If you need help - get help
  21. Take a class in something you want to learn about
  22. Read the Bible every day
  23. Pray for your enemies
  24. Do the little things that matter
  25. Conquer a fear
  26. Exercise more
  27. Don't compromise your beliefs
  28. Communicate better - more in-person / telephone conversations with less texting / email
  29. Keep criticism to yourself
  30. Turn off your cell phone when you spend time with others
  31. Donate blood
  32. Offer to watch someone's children so they can go on dates
  33. Be eager to do something someone else wants to do, even if you don't
  34. Go on picnics
  35. Schedule quiet time
  36. Pay for the person behind you at a drive-through
  37. Buy extra items at the store and donate them
  38. Be patient with people who annoy you
  39. Dream big dreams
  40. Finish a project you started and put aside
  41. Work on what you are passionate about
  42. Be more hopeful and positive
  43. Stop making excuses
  44. Lose weight
  45. Send someone flowers
  46. Make a family member breakfast-in-bed
  47. Less TV/Facebook/Electronic stuff and more time on relationships
  48. Do something spontaneous every week
  49. Talk to your neighbors
  50. Share your talents / Teach someone something you are good at
  51. Be a better listener and talk less
  52. Say "I am sorry", "thank you", and "please" more
  53. Break a bad habit or addiction
  54. Donate books to the library
  55. Don't waste time with bad entertainment
  56. Mentor a troubled youth
  57. Host a block party
  58. Ask more open-ended questions of others
  59. Stop gossiping
  60. Go on a spiritual retreat
  61. Become an organ donor
  62. Don't argue electronically. If it is serious enough, then talk in-person
  63. Start a new hobby
  64. Play board games
  65. Get involved in a new organization at church
  66. Go for more walks with others
  67. Be persistent in doing the right thing
  68. Be yourself
  69. Do chores for an elderly person
  70. Go on a mission trip / service trip
  71. Eat healthier
  72. Keep a holy hour in Adoration
  73. Vote
  74. Give sincere compliments
  75. Brag less
  76. Recycle more
  77. Start a garden
  78. Write your political representatives
  79. Teach a child to read / ride a bike / swim
  80. Don't one-up others in conversations
  81. Invite others for a big feast
  82. Plant a tree
  83. Have a garage sale and donate the proceeds
  84. Carpool
  85. Hold doors open for others
  86. Pick up random litter
  87. Learn CPR
  88. Eat family meals more
  89. Forgive a debt that someone owes to you
  90. Introduce yourself to those you sit near in church
  91. Give big hugs
  92. Call just to say "hi"
  93. Bake cookies and give them away to others
  94. Make care packages for the military
  95. Buy fair-trade items when possible
  96. Read good books
  97. When you are wrong - take the blame
  98. Go to Confession monthly
  99. Look for Christ in others
  100. Love God with all you are
If you decide to pick some of these and want to let others know about them, leave a comment below.

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Your Brain on Porn


A new study may show a link between those who watch a lot of porn and a decrease in brain matter and activity. Here is a snip from the story:
Men who report watching a lot of pornography tend to have less volume and activity in regions of the brain linked to rewards and motivation, says a new German study.

The study, published in JAMA Psychiatry, can't say watching porn caused the decrease in brain matter and activity, however.

It's not clear, for example, whether watching porn leads to brain changes or whether people born with certain brain types watch more porn, said Simone Kühn, the study’s lead author from the Max Planck Institute for Human Development in Berlin, in an email.

“Unfortunately we cannot answer this question based on the results of the present study,” Kühn said.

But, she noted, the results provide the first evidence for a link between pornography consumption and reductions in brain size and brain activity in response to sexual stimuli.

For the study, she and her colleague Jurgen Gallinat from Charite University, also in Berlin, recruited 64 healthy men between the ages of 21 and 45 years and asked them questions about their porn-watching habits. They also took images of the men’s brains to measure volume and to see how their brains reacted to pornographic pictures.

“We found that the volume of the so-called striatum, a brain region that has been associated with reward processing and motivated behavior was smaller the more pornography consumption the participants reported,” Kühn said.

“Moreover we found that another brain region, that is also part of the striatum that is active when people see sexual stimuli, shows less activation the more pornography participants consumed,” she added.

What’s more, the researchers found that the connection between the striatum and prefrontal cortex, which is the outer layer of the brain associated with behavior and decision making, worsened with increased porn watching.
But, that is just one study. Another study has shown that men's brains associate lightly-clad or naked pictures of women with the the same category as tools. In other words, they turn them into objects. Others show the highly addictive nature of pornography.

Here are some startling statistics compiled from a variety of academic and popular sources. I am sure you have heard how much money porn makes, how much there is, etc. But, what many don't see as much is the impact porn is having on individuals and society.

We must not ignore this problem. It is changing our culture rapidly and for the worse.
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ADDITIONAL READING:
**What Is Wrong With Porn?

**Porn and Support for Same-Sex Marriage
**Pornography Research
**Porn is More Addictive Than Cocaine and Heroin


The video below is something everyone should watch.
WARNING - Not for the lighthearted! Sex is treated flippantly in parts of the presentation. Nor is it for those that don't want to be shocked by the facts.

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Google Map of Where the 12 Apostles Died

Great use of technology. Click on the markers to get more info.
A map of locations of where the 12 Apostles of Jesus Christ died, according to tradition. Blue markers represent commonly accepted death locations while yellow markers represent disputed locations.

View Where the 12 Apostles Died in a larger map

Thursday, May 22, 2014

The Absolute Gift of Being Alive

90% of babies who receive a prenatal diagnosis of Down Syndrome are aborted.
9 out of 10. What a tragedy, to be killed rather than value the blessing each individual brings into this world. What do we value so much that we believe it would be better to take the life of someone with a disability rather than allow the life to flourish?

Will there be tough times? I don't doubt it. But, what family hasn't had tough times? I bet all the families in this video have too:



I am certain the following family has had tough times as well.
But, watch how they deal with it.


Wednesday, May 21, 2014

How To Have a Personal Relationship With Jesus


When I was dating my wife, I wanted to spend as much time as I possibly could with her. Why? Because I wanted to know her personally. I wanted to know what she liked and what she didn't. I wanted to get to know her pet peeves and what her passions were. I wanted to know everything I could about her. But, above all, else I made the choice to love her.

This is what happens when you love someone - you want as close, intimate, and personal of a relationship as you can; appropriate to the kind of relationship it is, of course.

The same goes with Jesus. If you are a Christian, you must have a close, intimate, and personal relationship with him. But, if you are not sure how to do this, it is simple:
  1. As with any relationship, you choose how close you want to be with someone. It is a choice only you can make. Your parents (once you get old enough to do it yourself) can't choose faith for you. Nor can the Church as a whole. Many who are Catholic (and other Christians also) have merely an intellectual or emotional connection to God, but not a personal one they have chosen in faith. To intellectually know Jesus (I know about Jesus) or have a movement of the emotions (I feel good about Jesus) isn't enough. Remember that even the demons know about Jesus and that we will all have times we don't feel good about Jesus ("take up your cross").
    This is why we must choose Jesus in faith, with is done through an act of our will.
  2. Once you choose Jesus in faith, you have to do it again and again. It isn't a one-and-done deal. This relationship is lived out primarily in prayer, the Sacraments, growing in virtue (primarily love of God and others), and service to God and others. Jesus is Lord of all and as a servant to our King, we must serve Him and others. This is what He commands of us. He also calls us to grow in virtue.
This concept of having a personal relationship with Jesus sometimes sounds too Protestant to some Catholics. That simply isn't true, it is as Catholic as all concepts. We have been using the language long before our Protestant brothers and sisters were ever around and the universal Church has never lost touch with this language, even if some individuals or communities have. For example, here are some quotes from some of our most recent Popes and one from the Catechism:
"Let the risen Jesus enter your life, welcome him as a friend, with trust: he is life! If up till now you have kept him at a distance, step forward. He will receive you with open arms. If you have been indifferent, take a risk: you won’t be disappointed. If following him seems difficult, don’t be afraid, trust him, be confident that he is close to you, he is with you and he will give you the peace you are looking for and the strength to live as he would have you do." -Pope Francis
"Being a Christian means having a living relationship with the person of Jesus; it means putting on Christ, being conformed to him." -Pope Francis
“It is necessary to awaken again in believers a full relationship with Christ, mankind’s only Savior.” Pope Saint John Paul II
"Christian faith is not only a matter of believing that certain things are true, but above all a personal relationship with Jesus Christ." -Pope Benedict XVI
"Only in this personal relationship with Christ, only in this encounter with the Risen One do we truly become Christians." -Pope Benedict XVI
"This mystery (of faith), then, requires that the faithful believe in it, that they celebrate it, and that they live from it in a vital and personal relationship with the living and true God. This relationship is prayer." -CCC 2558
So, not only should we not be scared of talking about a personal relationship, we need to start practicing it too. Thus, every time you do the following things you are working on your personal relationship with Jesus (as long as you choose Him intentionally):
  • set time apart daily to pray.
  • go to Mass
  • go to Confession
  • read the Bible
  • choose to act virtuously
  • perform an act of mercy or kindness
  • etc
When I promised that I would love my wife in our wedding vows, it wasn't merely an emotional act (it was and there is nothing wrong with that) or that I know a lot about her (there is and that is good). Rather, I chose to love my wife that day and every time I choose to love her again, I affirm that initial commitment I made in my vows.

The same is true for my relationship with Jesus. This is how you have a personal relationship with Jesus. As Thomas a Kempis says:
"You cannot live well without a friend, and if Jesus be not your friend above all else, you will be very sad and desolate. Thus, you are acting foolishly if you trust or rejoice in any other. Choose the opposition of the whole world rather than offend Jesus. Of all those who are dear to you, let Him be your special love. Let all things be loved for the sake of Jesus, but Jesus for His own sake. Jesus Christ must be loved alone with a special love for He alone, of all friends, is good and faithful. For Him and in Him you must love friends and foes alike, and pray to Him that all may know and love Him."
A close, intimate, and personal relationship with Jesus doesn't happen by accident. You must choose it. It must be intentional.
“Choose this day whom you will serve…as for me and my house we will serve the Lord.” -Joshua 24:15
"Behold, now is the acceptable time; behold, now is the day of salvation. 3 We put no obstacle in any one’s way, so that no fault may be found with our ministry" -2 Cor 6:2-3

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

10 Ways Christians Can Transform Modern Culture


10 Ways Christians Can Transform The Modern Culture
  1. Work on yourself first. The only thing we fully control are our own personal decisions. So, if we want to have any influence over culture or see any positive changes happen, we need to work on our own lives first. The only way to do this is to abandon yourself to God's grace.
  2. Evangelize, evangelize, evangelize. When we get to heaven, I believe the first question we will be asked is "who did you bring with you?" Jesus' mission statement is "go and make disciples". If we call ourselves His followers, we can't avoid evangelizing - it is a core part of our identity in Christ.
  3. Pray. Then pray some more. Any true transformation will take place in the hearts of others because of God's grace being operative in their lives. Pray for them. Pray for yourself. There is no spiritual power without prayer. Your relationship with Christ is found in prayer.
  4. Support those groups which are doing good work already. If you know of groups which already exist and are doing great work in transforming culture, then invest in them. Invest your time. Invest your money. Don't let another opportunity pass you by to put your money where your beliefs are. Also, don't be fooled into thinking we can change culture through politics. Rather, politics is a reflection of where our culture already has gone. Finally, we must also affirm what is still good about our modern culture and try to support those things as well.
  5. Focus on young adults. Young adults are not the future of the Church - they are already part of it, so we need to make sure they not only stay in the Church but help the Church grow and thrive. We can assure this happens by forming them and loving them. They will also be the primary evangelists (either for Jesus or the culture) of the next generation.
  6. Learn from how others have transformed culture in the past. The negative changes in our culture didn't change overnight and neither will the positive changes. We need to focus our efforts in media, education, fine arts, entertainment, etc to offer positive alternatives in these areas.
  7. Dream big. Too many Catholics are fine with the status quo. This is not how God feels. He dreams big and so should we. The entire world needs to be transformed. Where do we start? By taking the next step. I might add that we need to support our leaders when they do the right thing.
  8. Use all available tools. The internet, new media, tech, etc. These are at our fingertips now. Use them. Remember how the Industrial Revolution was driven by new technologies. The changes can be either negative or positive. The Church must always answer the "should we" and "how should we if we do" questions when it comes to progress.
  9. Stick to the basics. Most modern people are basically un-churched or de-churched, even if they go to church sometimes. This means they know little (if any) about a personal relationship with Jesus. So, stick to the basics. The best place to start is the Gospel message. Can you communicate it clearly and effectively?
  10. Invest your time, energy, and talents in helping others. The best way to transform culture is to make sure you are helping those you have influence with. Family, children, spouses, friends, co-workers, etc. These are the people you stand the best chance of helping make positive changes. Those small changes can lead to cultural trends. So, don't underestimate them.

The world needs Jesus, because He has the answer for all the world's problems in the truth and grace He offers to all.

Jesus gave us a Church and through it He gives us a moral anchor, an answer to broken families, addiction, sin, war, violence, abuse, and all the other issues in our culture. More than ever the world needs the Church, if our society is to last.

What can you do today to transform culture?

Monday, May 19, 2014

The Impact of Porn - By The Numbers


Here are some startling statistics compiled from a variety of academic and popular sources. I am sure you have heard how much money porn makes, how much there is, etc. But, what many don't see as much is the impact porn is having on individuals and society.

Here are some stats I have found (links give sources).

ADDICTION:
*Porn is more addictive than cocaine or heroin.

SOCIAL ACCEPTANCE:
*it isn't as widely accepted as some might make you think.
  • 76% of U.S. adults disagree that viewing hardcore adult pornography on the internet is morally acceptable;” 
  • 74% disagree that “viewing hardcore adult pornography on the Internet provides, generally, harmless entertainment;”
MEN:
*According to a survey published in the Journal of the American Psychological Association, 86% of men are likely to click on Internet sex sites if given the opportunity.

WOMEN:
*34% of female readers of Today's Christian Woman’s online newsletter admitted to intentionally accessing Internet porn.

MARRIAGE:
*According to the Journal of Adolescent Health, prolonged exposure to pornography leads to:
  • An exaggerated perception of sexual activity in society
  • Diminished trust between intimate couples
  • The abandonment of the hope of sexual monogamy
  • Belief that promiscuity is the natural state
  • Belief that abstinence and sexual inactivity are unhealthy
  • Cynicism about love or the need for affection between sexual partners
  • Belief that marriage is sexually confining
  • Lack of attraction to family and child-raising
*According to sociologist Jill Manning, the research indicates pornography consumption is associated with the following six trends, among others:
  • Increased marital distress, and risk of separation and divorce
  • Decreased marital intimacy and sexual satisfaction
  • Infidelity
  • Increased appetite for more graphic types of pornography and sexual activity associated with abusive, illegal or unsafe practices
  • Devaluation of monogamy, marriage and child rearing
  • An increasing number of people struggling with compulsive and addictive sexual behavior
*The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (divorce lawyers) reported that the most salient factors present in divorce cases are as follows:
  • 68% of the divorces involved one party meeting a new lover over the Internet.
  • 56% involved one party having “an obsessive interest in pornographic websites.”
  • 47% involved spending excessive time on the computer.
  • 33% involved excessive time spent speaking in chat rooms.
CHILDREN:
*According to research from Family Safe Media, the largest group of viewers of Internet porn is children between ages 12 and 17.

*According to a study cited in the Washington Post, more than 11 million teenagers view Internet pornography on a regular basis.


*When a child or adolescent is directly exposed to pornography the following effects have been documented:
  • Lasting negative or traumatic emotional responses.
  • Earlier onset of first sexual intercourse, thereby increasing the risk of STD’s over the lifespan.
  • The belief that superior sexual satisfaction is attainable without having affection for one’s partner, thereby reinforcing the commoditization of sex and the objectification of humans.
  • The belief that being married or having a family are unattractive prospects.
  • Increased risk for developing sexual compulsions and addictive behavior.
  • Increased risk of exposure to incorrect information about human sexuality long before a minor is able to contextualize this information in ways an adult brain could.
  • And overestimating the prevalence of less common practices (e.g., group sex, bestiality, or sadomasochistic activity).
*A study of youth between the ages of 10 and 17 concluded that there is a significant relationship between frequent porn use and feelings of loneliness and major depression.

*51% of male college students and 32% of female college students first viewed pornography before teenage years (12 and younger).

CHRISTIANITY:

*In 1994, a survey showed 91% of men raised in Christian homes were exposed to pornography while growing up (compared to 98% of those not raised in a Christian home).

*In August 2006, a survey reported 50% of all Christian men and 20% of all Christian women are addicted to pornography. 60% of the women who answered the survey admitted to having significant struggles with lust; 40% admitted to being involved in sexual sin in the past year.

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Please pray for those trapped by porn. 
--If you have a problem or if you want to know what is spiritually wrong with it - then read this.


The Stats on Internet Pornography

Friday, May 9, 2014

Summer Rule Of Life For College Students

The primary authors are the Apostles of the Interior Life.
I did a little bit of editing.

A RULE OF LIFE FOR SUMMER

Summer can be a very good time for relaxation and rest, compared to the hectic life of the year, but it can also be a very fruitful time for spiritual growth.
“In this oasis of quiet, before the wonderful spectacle of nature, one easily experiences how profitable silence is, a good that today is ever rarer. The many opportunities of relation and information that modern society offers sometimes run the risk of robbing time for recollection, to the point of rendering persons incapable of reflecting and praying. In reality, only in silence does man succeed in hearing in the depth of his conscience the voice of God, which really makes him free. And vacations can help us rediscover and cultivate this indispensable interior dimension of human life” -JPII, Angelus, July 11, 2004.
It is important to enter summer with a “plan” for your spiritual life. Otherwise it is so easy to drift away even from the prayer commitment that you had during the year.
  • First of all be faithful to your daily prayer. Establish how much time you want to devote to it, how (rosary, meditation on the Word of God, adoration…) and where (home, the chapel, your parish…). It is better to start with a little commitment (for example 20 minutes every day), and then in case increase it, than to start big and then give up because you can’t keep up with it.
  • Go to the Sacrament of Reconciliation with frequency. Get information about the days and times for Confessions in your parish.
  • If it is possible, you ought to go to Mass during the week as much as you can, according with your academic/work commitments.
  • Summer is usually a period when you have some more free time on your hands. It is ideal to read some good spiritual books that can inspire you and nourish your faith. You will find a great treasure in the lives of Saints, their writings, and in books about specific topics in which you are interested (e.g., spiritual discernment, virtues, faith and reason, Church history, apologetics, morality, etc.). You can ask your spiritual director or a campus minister for some good titles.
  • Try to be in touch with some good friends, with whom you share the same values. You can either pray together sometimes, or take a commitment at the parish together (e.g., helping with teens, Bible study, working in a soup kitchen, etc.), and certainly keep each other accountable for your spiritual life. If you can’t be physically in the same place, at least you can call each other regularly.
  • If you have a spiritual director, or spiritual mentor, keep in touch with him/her, calling or emailing him/her if you are in need of help and suggestions during the summer.
  • If you are going to spend summer at home, you might find difficulties because you don’t have the St. Mary’s community around. Families are not always supportive of faith, some parishes seem to be less alive than the Catholic Center, and you don’t get to see so many young people around. Remember that God is at work also in your parish, in your family and in your home town. Try to see the positive aspects there, and to think of that as an opportunity to give something of what you have received here at St. Mary’s during the year. With your family, try to be strong about your decisions, but also understanding of where they are at and not judgmental. You can be a witness to them, with your peace and gentleness.
Have a great summer and we are praying for all of you who have finals starting tomorrow.

Monday, May 5, 2014

From Atheist to Baptist to Catholic - Aggie Catholic, Devin Rose, Tells His Story

Aggie Catholic, Devin Rose (author of The Protestant's Dilemma and blogger), was recently on The Journey Home with Marcus Grodi on EWTN. He mentions the role other Catholics played in his conversion, while he was at A&M.
Watch below.

Supreme Court Upholds Prayer at Government Meetings

With all the bad news on the religious freedom front, it is nice to get some good news.
The Supreme Court has upheld the right of local officials to open town council meetings with prayer, ruling that this does not violate the Constitution even if the prayers routinely stress Christianity.

The court said in a 5-4 decision Monday that the content of the prayers is not critical as long as officials make a good-faith effort at inclusion.

The ruling was a victory for the town of Greece, N.Y., outside of Rochester.

"The prayer opportunity in this case must be evaluated against the backdrop of historical practice," the majority wrote in its opinion. "As a practice that has long endured, legislative prayer has become part of our heritage and tradition, part of our expressive idiom, similar to the Pledge of Allegiance, inaugural prayer, or the recitation of 'God save the United States and this honorable Court' at the opening of this Court's sessions."

Continue Reading.

Friday, May 2, 2014

Letter From The Wife Of A Porn Addict


This was passed on to me from a priest who received it from one of his parishioners.
Dear Father:

I write to you in an anonymous fashion because if I were to tell you who I am, I would be ashamed to come to the confessional, to Mass, to the place where I am gratefully being nourished. I thank you for the wonderful priest you are and for the pastoring you provide to all of us.

Anonymously in your pews are women holding families together against the destructive forces of pornography on our husbands and sons. We are hurting and ashamed, tolerating – not enjoying – marriages and dealing with our inadequacies and depression. Personally, I feel like the 15 years of my marriage before my discovery were one big lie; that I have been “duped” by an otherwise faithful, church-involved, Knights of Columbus husband. In the three years since my awareness was heightened, I have come to believe that an affair would have actually been easier to tolerate; for perhaps I could compete with flesh and bones, but not with this. That pleasure and satisfaction can come to my husband from something so 2-dimensional has shaken me to the core; my very sense of who I am and what I am worth is utterly destroyed. My world was turned upside down and I know if not for our children, I would have left the marriage. Unbecoming of me, I daydream about that day when I might still.

I am certain you are hearing it in the confessional from the husbands; my own husband has now been forthcoming in his challenges with pornography and about his frequent confessions of the sin. He initially felt great relief that I knew and somehow thought that my knowing would give him greater resistance against the temptation. Unfortunately, I think it just makes him deceive and “hide” more. If this doesn’t destroy our marriage, I fear my “response” will.

The other side is the woman’s side: our sin is the profound anger and inability to forgive because it doesn’t stop; how do we trust it even would? Some husbands regret their failure to stand up against this temptation; many do not even think there’s a problem, but it has them held captive. I have heard another woman say she would rather her husband were doing drugs; at least there are programs to get past that demon. I am confident this is affecting my husband’s ability to do his job, and I imagine it is threatening the security of his employment. My now sinful thoughts and giving in to anger; my energy expended trying to keep our home free of the temptations that come with every latest technology; my “revengeful spending” – these are not what God has called me to. I constantly replay Jesus on the cross saying “Father, forgive them, they don’t know what they do,” but I answer myself with a “but, no one told Jesus they would love him and honor him all the days of their life.”

I have sons who serve at the altar, and I fear for them and their futures; for their future wives. I try to teach my teenage boys about purity, the value of their sexuality, and the Theology of the Body, but they know the magazines and websites of their father, who is a “good man” and “receives the sacraments”—so I am just the “old-fashioned” prude of a mother. I feel constantly under attack, and it doesn’t seem there will be an end to my hurting.

I wish there were a support group for the women suffering this way, but we are all so ashamed that we can’t satisfy our husbands enough, and afraid to make it public and destroy our husbands’ reputations, that none of us would come. We simply suffer and die inside alone. I am not offering any advice or asking you to do anything about this. Perhaps you can just say a prayer now and then for the wives in your parish trying to hold a family together. Thank you for tolerating my rambling here.

Thank you.
Further Reading
**What Is Wrong With Porn?
**Porn Hurts Others
**The Science Of Internet Porn - What Happens To The Brain & The Body
**The Cost of Porn
**Pornography Research
**Porn Is More Addictive Than Cocaine or Heroin!
**Porn & Support For Same-Sex Marriage
**If You Aren't Convinced Porn Is Destroying Our Culture - Read This!