Thursday, December 1, 2011

Gay, Catholic, and Doing Fine


The following article is a true winner. You want to read it all.
Here is a snip:
Where are all these bigoted Catholics I keep hearing about? When I told my family a year ago, not one of them responded with anything but love and understanding. Nobody acted like I had a disease. Nobody started treating me differently or looking at me funny. The same is true of every one of the Catholic friends that I've told. They love me for who I am. 
Actually, the only time I get shock or disgust or disbelief, the only time I've noticed people treating me differently after I tell them, is when I tell someone who supports the gay lifestyle. Celibacy?? You must be some kind of freak. 
Hooray for tolerance of different viewpoints. I'm grateful to gay activists for some things -- making people people more aware of the prevalence of homosexuality, making homophobia less socially acceptable -- but they also make it more difficult for me to be understood, to be accepted for who I am and what I believe. If I want open-mindedness, acceptance, and understanding, I look to Catholics. 
Is it hard to be gay and Catholic? Yes, because like everybody, I sometimes want things that are not good for me. The Church doesn't let me have those things, not because she's mean, but because she's a good mother. If my son or daughter wanted to eat sand I'd tell them: that's not what eating is for; it won't nourish you; it will hurt you. Maybe my daughter has some kind of condition that makes her like sand better than food, but I still wouldn't let her eat it. Actually, if she was young or stubborn enough, I might not be able to reason with her -- I might just have to make a rule against eating sand. Even if she thought I was mean.  
So the Church doesn't oppose gay marriage because it's wrong; she opposes it because it's impossible, just as impossible as living on sand. The Church believes, and I believe, in a universe that means something, and in a God who made the universe -- made men and women, designed sex and marriage from the ground up. In that universe, gay marriage doesn't make sense. It doesn't fit with the rest of the picture, and we're not about to throw out the rest of the picture. 
If you don't believe in these things, if you believe that men and women and sex and marriage are pretty much whatever we say they are, then okay: we don't have much left to talk about. That's not the world I live in. 
So, yes, it's hard to be gay and Catholic -- it's hard to be anything and Catholic -- because I don't always get to do what I want. Show me a religion where you always get to do what you want and I'll show you a pretty shabby, lazy religion. Something not worth living or dying for, or even getting up in the morning for.
Continue Reading.
I don't usually use the word "gay". I use the term "same-sex attraction" instead. The reason is a sexual orientation doesn't define who a person is. But, this article isn't about semantics and it is a great one.

3 comments:

George @ Convert Journal said...

This is an awesome piece. Very well explained.

I agree with you on the word "gay", it is much too ambiguous.

Katy said...

I've seen this before and I absolutely love it!

I also agree with you about the word "gay". I have read a lot of the other posts from this author of this article and he actually uses the term "same-sex attraction" most often for the same reasons you stated here.

Anthony S. Layne said...

People get into combox fights over whether one should use gay to describe an SSA-afflicted person practicing chastity. While there is a point to making distinctions, it's more important to give credit to those who truly "pick up their cross" (Mt 16:24).