Thursday, August 19, 2010

Bound in Love

G.K. Chesterton wrote the following about vows:
The revolt against vows has been carried in our day even to the extent of a revolt against the typical vow of marriage. It is most amusing to listen to the opponents of marriage on this subject. They appear to imagine that the ideal of constancy was a yoke mysteriously imposed on mankind by the devil, instead of being, as it is, a yoke consistently imposed by all lovers on themselves. They have invented a phrase, a phrase that is a black and white contradiction in two words -- `free-love' -- as if a lover ever had been, or ever could be, free. It is the nature of love to bind itself, and the institution of marriage merely paid the average man the compliment of taking him at his word. Modern sages offer to the lover, with an ill-favoured grin, the largest liberties and the fullest irresponsibility; but they do not respect him as the old Church respected him; they do not write his oath upon the heavens, as the record of his highest moment. They give him every liberty except the liberty to sell his liberty, which is the only one that he wants.
15 years ago, today, I gave up my "freedom" in order to bind myself to my wife, until death do us part. It is in this binding that love has grown. A love that I never knew was possible. This love doesn't just rest in the emotions, although there are emotions attached to it. But, it rests in the will. I choose to love. I choose to choose my wife, Kristy.

As Chesterton says in another part of the same essay quoted above, "The man who makes a vow makes an appointment with himself at some distant time or place."

I will happily keep this appointment with myself.

Please say a prayer for my marriage and my family. While your at it pray for all marriages and families as well as the culture that attacks them so mightily.


timh said...

More: "Anniversary Blessings- Though it didn't seem possible that love could ever be greater than the moment you said, "I do," the road you've traveled together has taken you to a place where love is so much more than a fleeting emotion. Love has become a decision, a wonderful commitment that grows deeper and stronger every day. As you continue through life's journey, may your hearts forever cherish that special joy only you can share. May God's blessings light your way as you walk together day by day. Walk in love. --Ephesians 5:2"

Amy Kinney said...

Congratulations! Many more blessed years together!