Tuesday, October 13, 2009

An Abortion "Addict"

What a depressing story.  A woman who has had 15 abortions in 17 years!  Oh, how I mourn for her children and for her.  What kind of sadness must she be holding in?  A sadness that made her attempt suicide several times.  Now, she writes a book on her story, not to repent, but just to tell it.  This is what modern culture teaches us, that we are washed clean, not by repentance, but by public declaration of our sins.  Lord have mercy.
A woman has admitted to being 'an abortion addict' after having 15 terminations over 17 years.
Irene Vilar said she had the abortions not from poverty or fear but as an extraordinary act of rebellion against her 'controlling' husband who did not want children.
The 40-year-old's confession has unleashed a torrent of attacks from anti-abortion activists on the internet, including death threats and demands for her to be jailed.
The cycle of pregnancies and abortions, which began when she was 16 and ended when she was 33, was also punctuated by several suicide attempts.
Now a successful literary agent with two young daughters, Loretta, five, and Lolita, three, Mrs Vilar has written about her experiences in a memoir, called Impossible Motherhood: Testimony of an Abortion Addict.
The book, which was published yesterday, has shocked many Americans, who remain bitterly divided over the issue, and has angered campaigners on both sides of the abortion divide.
Charmaine Yoest, president of pro-life pressure group Americans United for Life, said: 'It really underscores everything we always say in the pro-life movement - that abortion is part of a very sad story for women.'
However, pro-choice campaigners said Mrs Vilar's book raises uncomfortable questions about abortion as a form of birth control.  Continue reading...
I agree that it raises some "uncomfortable questions".  The story goes on to say that she is receiving death threats. If this is the case, anyone who would threaten her life is not pro-life in any way.  She needs our prayers.  A lot of prayers.

UPDATE: In a related story, a new study shows that having an abortion increases the risk of the next pregnancy having a 35% higher chance of being premature.

UPDATE #2 - The LA Times is now carrying another article on the same story.  It has basically the same details as the original.  But, this quote is striking.
She spends many hours each week reading up on child development. "I try to be very aware of what I lack, and what I need to learn. I read a lot of books to see what ways I can protect my girls from the world, including me."
I wonder if she read about how her other 15 children were developing in-utero?


Shacoria Robinson said...

This woman sounds selfish and disgusting to me. I'm trying not to judge her being that she had a controlling husband and was unhappy but I think what she did was horrible. I hate the fact that she has these 2 children now. I'm afraid for their safety.

Marcel said...

I know that the initial reaction is one of disgust for the evil that has happened (killing 15 innocents). But we have to try, as best we can, to see this woman as God sees her. He sees his beloved daughter, hurting and wounded. He sees someone in desperate need of mercy.

May we help show her this mercy!

Anthony said...

It is true that those who hurt others are truly hurting themselves, but we should never lose sight of the fact that killing 15 unborn children is of the same gravity, and in fact of the same nature, as killing 15 born children, or even 15 adults. Life is life, and terminating it for your own convenience or passions is murder.

From heaven, she is certainly seen as a woman wounded and hurting; but also as a woman who has committed 15 murders and is in a state of grave mortal sin. She's wounded and hurting much like a serial killer. This is not to demean her or to dehumanize her, but simply to confess the serious nature of her crimes. Even if her culpability were diminished to its most basic form out of ignorance or other circumstances, that basic guilt is more horrendous and disfiguring to the spirit than anything we could possibly conceive.

I'm not sorry for her. I'm sorry she would commit such actions, yes; but I just can't give the sympathy to her that should be reserved for the 15 lives she's destroyed because of her disorder.

Marcel said...

I don't think it has to be one or the other. We can mourn and be upset at the evil and still love her.