Q - I have a question! Is it wrong to hold hands during mass when we say the Our Father, after the host has been consencrated to the body and blood of Jesus? Someone told me the U.S. Bishops do not want us to do this. Is that true? Just curious!
A - No, that is not true. The US Bishops have not said anything about the issue one way or the other nor has the Vatican for that matter. Although there is quite a bit of differing opinion on the matter, there is no authoritative law about whether we should or should not do.
Now, does that mean it is the best thing to do? That is up for debate and it is a debate which really is a distraction in many ways - but I digress. Suffice it to say that there is nothing intrinsically "wrong" with holding hands. While it isn't proscribed in the rubrics that we hold hands, it also doesn't say we cannot.
WARNING - PERSONAL OPINION ON THE HORIZON - I would prefer not to hold hands and it isn't because it isn't in "the rules" that we can. It is a theological argument that Pope Benedict XVI made in his book, Spirit of the Liturgy. The point of holding hands is a sign of community and communion. Since this is the case, it is a misplaced sign, because we aren't truly in communion until we have exchanged the sign of peace. this is why Communion happens after the Sign of Peace, because it is the sign of communion par excellence.
Now, my opinion certainly isn't authoritative and I do find myself holding hands, especially with my children. I also do not think anyone is going to have to answer for their "hand-holding opinion" when they reach the gates of Heaven. So, I would rest comfortably doing whatever you would like to do.
I advise that we not get too distracted by little things such as this in Mass. It takes away our true growth in holiness. I myself was once what I call a "liturgical cop". After talking to my spiritual director about how to straighten out the liturgy in one parish, he looked me in the eyes and said "I think that you should worry about your own holiness and not this". That straightened me out and helped me to hang up my badge.
Are there times we should speak up? Yes. Do I believe this is a war that we need to fight? No. I hope that helps. If you want further clarification or if it still bothers you, then ask to talk to your pastor about it. But, do so in a non-accusatory way.